Last week, I hosted my very first session as a facilitator. Stepping into that role meant stepping fully out of my comfort zone. But as I was leading it, something happened — a deep, quiet joy rose up in my belly. I knew right away it was a sign: I was on the right path. I'd been preparing for that moment for a long time, and when it finally arrived, I felt a wave of gratitude. A milestone, reached.
Then, in the days that followed, something else showed up: emptiness. A quiet unraveling. Do I actually know what the next right step is? I started to doubt myself.
Here's what I've come to understand: after every stretch of growth, there's a moment of expansion — a space that opens up to make room for what's next. That's what the emptiness really is. And our instinct, in a world built around instant reward, is to fill that space right away — to chase the next hit of certainty, the next goal, the next proof that we're doing okay. But sometimes the most powerful thing you can do is simply not know for a moment. To just sit with it.
A few days later, as I'm writing this to you, I can tell you what emerged from that empty space: more clarity. More calm. More trust in what I have to give and how I want to serve. This is all part of the process.
So if you've been working toward something — striving to achieve a goal, manifest a desire, receive something you've longed for — and once it arrives, or even partway there, a strange emptiness shows up... let it be. Sit with it. Be grateful for that moment, even though it's uncomfortable. It's happening for a reason.
Bring it into your day
When a wave of not-knowing shows up this week, pause before reaching for your phone, a to-do list, or an answer. Just breathe, and let it be there.
Notice any place you're telling yourself “I should already know this by now” — and gently let that thought go.
At the end of each day, ask: where did I make room for something new today, even if I couldn't yet see what it was?
A Short Practice
The Allowance Breath
Try this whenever the emptiness shows up this week and you want to meet it, instead of rushing past it. Three to five minutes is enough.
Find a comfortable seat. Let your spine be long and your shoulders soft.
Inhale gently through your nose for a count of four, feeling your belly and chest fill.
At the top of the inhale, pause for a count of four. Don't rush to exhale — this pause is the space. Just allow it.
Exhale slowly through your mouth for a count of six to eight, longer than your inhale, releasing anything you don't need to carry right now.
Before your next inhale, pause again at the bottom for a count of two to four. Rest here, in the emptiness. Notice: it isn't nothing. It's spacious.
Repeat for eight to ten rounds, or simply let a timer run for three to five minutes.
To close, place a hand on your heart and silently say: “I allow. I don't need to know yet.”
Go gently — if you ever feel lightheaded, let go of the pauses and return to your normal breath.
You don't have to fill this space to be on your path. Even empty, it's doing its work.
See you next week,
Gosia
SOMA Breath® Instructor
Brave Soul Thrive